Why Our Society Must Promote the Advantages of Having Children Again.

“How paramount the future is to the present when one is surrounded by children.”  Charles Darwin

“Children are a heritage from the Lord…” Psalms 127: 3-5

I was in a discussion with a small group of people a while back in which the topic of marriage and family ideals came up.  One young woman said her goal was, upon graduating college, marriage and having a large family. A young man, influenced by environmentalism, said that maybe his not having children would benefit earth. The woman noted she had studied the topic and that the “overpopulation myth” was more propaganda than reality. She presented her position quite well, but I doubt she converted him. And no wonder since the idea that we should see childbirth as a bad thing is firmly institutionalized in western culture since the early 1970s. No wonder the birthrate has plummeted to record lows.

Ironically, there are people of influence in international bodies, academia and environmentalist groups that, despite negative birthrates in the developed world, propose we limit births even more. Most would favor convincing people to not have kids, for instance maybe only showing small families as positive and large ones negative in TV programs or  mandatory education curriculum that promote the alleged perils of children on the planet. Others would take it further and impose penalties for those wanting more than the “desired” number of children. Either position seems odd when the developed nations, as already noted, are far below replacement births.

One would think extinction was the goal of some of these people. In my latest science fiction thriller, “The Destiny of Our Past” (Amazon link to book: http://amzn.to/2nrU3Ng ) the government has instituted what is called “Agenda 0”and it is sold as environmentally necessary to the masses. When a young person reaches age 16 they have sperm and egg frozen and are then sterilized.  Later in life they can apply for a license to have access to their reproductive cells and have a baby. Reproduction is tightly managed; so much so that religious people trying to bypass the regulations face public execution. Is this the future that many who present the idea that our planet’s very existence is at stake if people are allowed to have the freedom to have children might want? I have met lots of people who would say that such a policy would be something they would support.

The irony is that, again, as I have noted, the birthrates of the developed nations are dangerously low.  If anything we should be encouraging young people to have more children. Yet in our society there are many forces employed to dissuade people from marriage and having children.  The influences on people’s decision making are heavily lopsided on presenting the disadvantages of traditional family goals. No wonder we have the situation we have today.

Maybe we need a reevaluation of our societal goals and values – and soon. In reality children are a blessing and perhaps we need, for instance, churches and other influential bodies to not just promote the advantages of having a family in the first place but promote the advantages of having larger families.  And there certainly are advantages to raising children. For instance:
  • The greatest investment ever. Okay, true there are costs associated with having children, and some people choose to forego any births, or curtail their families to only two children, but let’s look at this carefully.  Ultimately pretty much every consumer item you crave to have will be in a second-hand store or junk yard in a decade. How much is that computer you wished your parents would buy you back in 2005? That car you envied the neighbor having back in 2000? On the other hand children are an investment into the future. The fulfillment one will gain from one child can only be magnified by many children and these children can bring you grandchildren.
  • Your family is the only enduring social network you will have. Very, very few of the people you call friends will remain close to you as time goes on.  And the more children you have the larger this biological network will be.  You have to admire many of the immigrants from the Middle East who go into a business as a family and then expand it, filling the administrative positions with brothers and cousins.  Our “modern” society has, for the most part, abandoned this aspect of family… and along with it possibilities as well as security.
  • Greater support. I read an article about Mexican Americans and depression a few years ago. It said that recent immigrants had much lower depression than the general culture, but then their children began to acquire the traits of those around them.  The theory was that the first generation newcomers came from large extended families.  They were able to turn to each other for psychological support in times of stress or depression. Maybe ones parents don’t understand a person that well while one of the brothers or sisters do. Large families have an advantage there.
  • People who are in strong family units tend to fare better on health measures than those who don’t.  How many times have you heard of parents dying in an accident so the grandparents assume the role of parents again; and their agility and outlook returns to a younger state?  Family gives us meaning and people who have a sense of their importance supplied by family will have an advantage in health and well-being.
  • Married people live longer than single people and people with families tend to live longer as well.  Childbirth can of course reduce risk of certain cancers but even beyond that larger families may hold advantages. For instance, we see an explosion of childhood obesity and one factor that has been cited is smaller families that can afford to indulge one or two kids with lots more treats than one with three or four (or more) children would be able, or willing, to do.
  • Better use of resources. People with families tend to buy more in bulk and use less resources per person for heating, water and even transportation.
  • Cultural preservation. A culture that is not replacing itself is one that is slated for the same fate as the Shakers – decline and extinction.  It is not so simple as saying that the average birthrate has to be around 2.3 children per woman just to have a replacement of the previous generation.  We have to consider that there are many people who are sterile, others who never marry, mortality, and some people absolutely not wanting families.  To attain 2.3 you have to have a significant number of couples having three or more children to offset this.
  • Genetic survival. It is more than chromosomes; much more.  You are the result of countless generations of people who survived long enough to reproduce. Your DNA is a chain that connects you to the ancient past.
  • Seriously, while I often hear parents complain about the responsibilities of raising children not a one of them, at least the many I have encountered, say they wish they had not had them, or had avoided the youngest or whatever. On a cost-benefit scale the joys of parenting far outweigh the costs.
  • Getting to experience life again. What better excuse to re-gain the fun you had when you were a kid playing with toys than to have an excuse to play with them again with your children? And even a person who is an astronomer as a living can experience the simple pleasures of looking at the stars with their kids on a July night.  As adults we often get caught up with the complexities of life that we forget the joys of simply watching ants go about their business on a spring day, or planting seeds in a garden. Yet in the company of children we regain the perspective that we may have had twenty or thirty (or more) years previously. The marvels of creation can often be forgotten in our dog-eat-dog world, but children remind us of what is important.
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  1. End the culture of giving medical cards and other benefits to pregnant teenagers. For this culture not only breeds contempt for family rearing, but also kills those whom work and support their families, too. How? By giving medical cards to families that are only social parasites, but people whom produce and support their families can't get medical cards when they truly get sick or hurt , also. My way: unwed mothers get only free hospital delivery and they must give their babies up at birth, too. No government aid else. Also, welfare recipients must be sterilized surgically to keep their benefits, also. The medical cards and other benefits will given to married couples as an incentive to have children, also. Encourage the right people to mass reproduce and society will again benefit family growth, too.


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